sandmansister: (Celtic - tree)
Shared by [livejournal.com profile] deramani; archiving here for my own purposes (and, hopefully, your enjoyment).

The Laughing Heart
by Charles Bukowski

Your life is your life
don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out.
there is light somewhere.
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances.
know them, take them.
you can’t beat death but
you can beat death in life,
sometimes.
and the more often you
learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight in you.
sandmansister: (Celtic - tree)
Shared by [livejournal.com profile] deramani; archiving here for my own purposes (and, hopefully, your enjoyment).

The Laughing Heart
by Charles Bukowski

Your life is your life
don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out.
there is light somewhere.
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances.
know them, take them.
you can’t beat death but
you can beat death in life,
sometimes.
and the more often you
learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight in you.
sandmansister: (Celtic - tree)
Shared by [livejournal.com profile] deramani; archiving here for my own purposes (and, hopefully, your enjoyment).

The Laughing Heart
by Charles Bukowski

Your life is your life
don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out.
there is light somewhere.
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances.
know them, take them.
you can’t beat death but
you can beat death in life,
sometimes.
and the more often you
learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight in you.
sandmansister: (Celtic - tree)
Shared by [livejournal.com profile] deramani; archiving here for my own purposes (and, hopefully, your enjoyment).

The Laughing Heart
by Charles Bukowski

Your life is your life
don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out.
there is light somewhere.
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances.
know them, take them.
you can’t beat death but
you can beat death in life,
sometimes.
and the more often you
learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight in you.
sandmansister: (Hedwig - Origin of Love)
Saving here for my own purposes, but also wanted to share this excellent food for thought. It's about the criteria we use to choose romantic partners, but it most certainly applies to any close relationship. For myself, there's no appreciable difference between a love partner and a cherished friend, at least from an emotional perspective. Love is love; the way the emotion/relationship manifests just varies based on chemistry.

This essay articulates a lot of things I knew, but my heart couldn't find the words to express. The biggest is this:
It is possible to deeply, sincerely love someone and still not be a good partner for that person.


And I sort of already adopted this approach, but I'm going to make it a more conscious practice, now:
If I meet someone who seems interesting, and seems interested in me, I am more likely to ask the question "Does this person really light me up inside and bring out joy in me?" than "Does this person have some disagreeable trait that I don't like?" That approach tends to "fail open"—the default is *not* to start a relationship unless there's something very special about the person, rather than to start a relationship unless there's something disagreeable about her.


So here's to failing open, my lovelies. And thank you one and all for making my heart sparkle darkly.
sandmansister: (Hedwig - Origin of Love)
Saving here for my own purposes, but also wanted to share this excellent food for thought. It's about the criteria we use to choose romantic partners, but it most certainly applies to any close relationship. For myself, there's no appreciable difference between a love partner and a cherished friend, at least from an emotional perspective. Love is love; the way the emotion/relationship manifests just varies based on chemistry.

This essay articulates a lot of things I knew, but my heart couldn't find the words to express. The biggest is this:
It is possible to deeply, sincerely love someone and still not be a good partner for that person.


And I sort of already adopted this approach, but I'm going to make it a more conscious practice, now:
If I meet someone who seems interesting, and seems interested in me, I am more likely to ask the question "Does this person really light me up inside and bring out joy in me?" than "Does this person have some disagreeable trait that I don't like?" That approach tends to "fail open"—the default is *not* to start a relationship unless there's something very special about the person, rather than to start a relationship unless there's something disagreeable about her.


So here's to failing open, my lovelies. And thank you one and all for making my heart sparkle darkly.
sandmansister: (Hedwig - Origin of Love)
Saving here for my own purposes, but also wanted to share this excellent food for thought. It's about the criteria we use to choose romantic partners, but it most certainly applies to any close relationship. For myself, there's no appreciable difference between a love partner and a cherished friend, at least from an emotional perspective. Love is love; the way the emotion/relationship manifests just varies based on chemistry.

This essay articulates a lot of things I knew, but my heart couldn't find the words to express. The biggest is this:
It is possible to deeply, sincerely love someone and still not be a good partner for that person.


And I sort of already adopted this approach, but I'm going to make it a more conscious practice, now:
If I meet someone who seems interesting, and seems interested in me, I am more likely to ask the question "Does this person really light me up inside and bring out joy in me?" than "Does this person have some disagreeable trait that I don't like?" That approach tends to "fail open"—the default is *not* to start a relationship unless there's something very special about the person, rather than to start a relationship unless there's something disagreeable about her.


So here's to failing open, my lovelies. And thank you one and all for making my heart sparkle darkly.
sandmansister: (Hedwig - Origin of Love)
Saving here for my own purposes, but also wanted to share this excellent food for thought. It's about the criteria we use to choose romantic partners, but it most certainly applies to any close relationship. For myself, there's no appreciable difference between a love partner and a cherished friend, at least from an emotional perspective. Love is love; the way the emotion/relationship manifests just varies based on chemistry.

This essay articulates a lot of things I knew, but my heart couldn't find the words to express. The biggest is this:
It is possible to deeply, sincerely love someone and still not be a good partner for that person.


And I sort of already adopted this approach, but I'm going to make it a more conscious practice, now:
If I meet someone who seems interesting, and seems interested in me, I am more likely to ask the question "Does this person really light me up inside and bring out joy in me?" than "Does this person have some disagreeable trait that I don't like?" That approach tends to "fail open"—the default is *not* to start a relationship unless there's something very special about the person, rather than to start a relationship unless there's something disagreeable about her.


So here's to failing open, my lovelies. And thank you one and all for making my heart sparkle darkly.

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